Today’s lesson during halaqah really touched me to the core of my heart. Coincidentally I had just finished attending the course “7 habits of effective people”. Surprisingly, the message during both these classes are similar. That to change, it must start with ME. Myself, myself, myself and no one else but ME.
Topic of how to be best friends to others really sets me to thinking mode….AGAIN!
Do I have these criterias to be a good friend?
1) Am I the type of person who can help others to Allah’s path? or Am I a person who is easily led astray by others?
2) Am I a person with brain…I mean a thinker who knows what is wrong and what is right? or Am I a fool who thinks she knows more than others?
3) Am I a person with good conduct? or Am I a person who others view with dislike?
4) Am I an honest person? or A person who tell lies?
5) Am I a practice Muslim? or Just someone who claims to be a Muslim?
“Oh Allah, please place the world in my hand and not in my heart” (Thank you Mrs Beki for this beautiful du’a…)
These five questions may seem easy to answer if I want to deceive myself but I do not. The only truthful answers is if I ask other people. For their reflection is the true reflection of ME and not what I want to see.
But before I am ready to listen to their views…I must first change my perspectives and thinking. I must be proactive and not reactive. Which means I must be willing to accept with an open-mind whatever negative comments they made and not react with emotions.
I must learn to hold my emotions in check if I want to begin the first step to change myself for the better.
Ohhh…but its gonna be hard… I know it will be…
Yet I must believe that I can do it…I must start small….start small like a child’s first step…
slow and steady….slow and steady until I can run…
May Allah bless me with His Strength, His Patience and His Guidance….
Insya-Allah….
Ameen….
Posted by ummabdurrahman on November 24, 2007 at 1:22 am
Mash’Allah sis,
What a beautiful entry. I really had to focus into these questions and ask my self the same. Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves that others may view us as being just an ordinary person. Allah knows His creation better than anyone.
Mash’Allah sis, keep the entries rolling. I have enjoyed reading, rereading, reflecting and revisiting your entries.
Allah reward you for taking the time out to post the.
I have recieved much benefit.
Jazak Allahu Khair
Posted by Farhana on November 26, 2007 at 12:42 am
As-salaamu’alaykum wa Rahmatu Llahi wa Barakatuhu my dearest sister,
Ameen.
Oh you did it again! Got my brain thinking, …trying to answer all these questions. I think your own journey.. is going to end up making all your readers better people, insha’Allah, just by reflecting on what you write. Jazak’Allah.
I pray Allah makes it easy for you.
… and if there is anything I can do to help out, please let me know
Wa’alaykum as-salaam
Love Farhana
Posted by adikbongsu on November 26, 2007 at 2:48 am
Wa’alaikumussalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakahtu,
Sisters Farhana and UmmAbdurrahman :
Masya-Allah, Ameen…ameen to your du’as….and Farhana?…I believe I will take up on your offer of help when the time comes
Posted by Farhana on November 26, 2007 at 8:03 pm
As-salaamu’alaykum wa Rahmatu Llahi wa Barakatuhu my dearest sister,
Hehe
I’m here, I’m here for you, and for what ever help you need, insha’Allah.
And you are always in my prayers
Wa’alaykum as-salaam
Love Farhana