Bondings among siblings….can be great, good, so-so or just bad. There are times when the relationship is so good that you think you’ve the best family in the world. Yet, there are also times when it can be so bad that you feel isolated and hurt.
I have done and gone thru all these phases of life with my siblings. There are 4 of us. All girls and we are all so different. If I were to try to find a common ground for all of us, it is that we share the same parents. There are of course some similar habits that either one of us have with each other but it stop there.
Families bonding is truly the most fragile thing in the world. There will always be issues that we agree or disagree. As I am the youngest in the family, I normally try to keep out of things and not get involved when there’s conflict. Being the youngest, you’re normally override in certain issues. So I have learnt to avoid them.
The thing that I feel sad is that, when you help them, they are happy and in return treat you well but when its your turn facing problem, they will either try to avoid you or treat you as the one at fault. It is true of sayings that says, a true friend is someone who is next to you when you are in need and when you are well in health and wealth. This sayings goes the same for our relationship with our siblings.
Some siblings, only when they need us, they look for us but once they are well-off, they shun us. So a true sister or brother is someone who will always be there for you, rain or shine.
Posted by ummabdurrahman on November 30, 2007 at 8:46 pm
As Salaamu Alaikum Sis:
As the eldest in my family, I was expected to do alot for the younger ones. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister and yes there was alot of sibling rivalry between us but it was always me who had to give up something for the other. Lessons to be learned were alot and now as a mother I would say that I could never favor one child over another and this is a downfall of many parents. Anyway, I agree with what you say on when you most need someone they are not there but just as you know of their needs your heart pours out to help. Gratitude and appreciation will be short changed. Anyway, our intentions are good. Sometimes, I get more of an appreciation from Muslims sisters than my own family. Seriously, this is a feeling that I get vs. from my own family a simple smile or thanks. Maybe its that family thinks they can take certain people in the family for granted.
Intersting post sis
Jazak ALlahu Khair
Posted by Umm Yusuf on December 2, 2007 at 7:29 am
Mash’Allah sis! I loved reading this. Where I come from family and tradition are everything. So, we are taught to have extremely tight bonds.My siblings and I have always been really close. I am the closest with my oldest sister and my other sis and brother have a really close bond. It’s really odd how we bond together like that. Though, I can honestly say, insh’Allah that if I REALLY needed ANY of my siblings all that I would have to do is call and they would be there. Even with me a Muslim and them non muslims.
Posted by adikbongsu on December 2, 2007 at 9:20 am
Salam ‘alaik UmmAbdurrahman and Umm Yusuf,
UmmAbdurrahman : I suppose no matter what we will still have to continue to try maintaining the bond between siblings for Allah’s sake. As for the rest, whether they reciprocate or not, we shall leave it to Allah best judgement. May Allah bless us with a good relationship with our family members. Ameen!
Umm Yusuf : Subhanallah, praise be to Allah for you’re one of the lucky ones to have such a close-knit relationship with your family members. Alhamdulillah…